What it means to own both the harm you caused and the good you’ve done—so healing can feel real.
Healing doesn’t mean pretending we’ve never hurt anyone.
It means facing what we did while in survival mode—
without letting shame become our identity.
We’ve all said things we regret.
We’ve shut down.
We’ve hurt people we care about.
We’ve repeated cycles we swore we’d break.
That doesn’t make you bad.
It makes you human.
And more than that—
it makes you someone who can grow.
To truly heal, we have to stop running.
Not to shame ourselves—
but to bring honesty back into the room.
Because when you face the harm you’ve caused—
and why you caused it—
you take your power back.
You stop getting stuck in guilt.
You stop needing to defend or deny.
You start becoming someone you can be proud of.
Real pride isn’t about being perfect.
It’s about being truthful.
Willing to change.
Willing to love better.
It’s saying:
“I see what I did—and I know I’m more than that.”
“I own the harm—and I still deserve to heal.”
To hold pride without shame is to hold complexity.
You don’t have to choose between being
the one who caused harm
or the one who’s becoming more loving.
You are both.
And that truth is what makes healing real.
Not polished. Not performative.
But grounded.
You’re loved. You’re valued. You’re worthy. You’re enough.
Even when you’ve made mistakes.
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