Silence can be violence.
When someone doesn’t like what you say,
they don’t argue.
They don’t explain.
They don’t scream.
They go quiet.
At first, it seems like a pause. A break.
But it’s not.
It’s stonewalling—
the act of using silence as a weapon.
What the Silence Strategy Looks Like
- You’re ignored for hours, days, or weeks after conflict.
- They act like nothing happened, but something has clearly changed.
- You’re forced to guess what you did wrong.
- Every attempt to repair is met with coldness or withdrawal.
- The silence feels punishing—not peaceful.
The Impact on You
This kind of silence doesn’t create peace.
It creates fear and confusion.
You start:
- Walking on eggshells.
- Apologizing for things you don’t understand.
- Dimming your truth to avoid another freeze-out.
And that’s exactly the point.
Why It’s So Effective
Unlike yelling or insults, silence leaves no trace.
It gives the abuser deniability:
“I just needed space.”“You’re too sensitive.”
“I didn’t do anything.”
But silence used this way isn’t passive.
It’s an act of emotional dominance—a way to control without words.
🧠 Common Sense Says:
Silence is not always peace.Sometimes, it’s control dressed up as calm.
🎚️ Gradient Scale:
Disagreement → Withdrawal → Stonewalling → Strategic Silence → Emotional Isolation
If someone uses silence to make you feel small,
it’s not healthy communication.
It’s emotional control.
And you deserve to be heard, not erased.
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